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Five Things You Can Do To Get Rid of the Winter Blues 

Hi guys,

Today’s post is going to be about giving ourselves a little Tender Loving Care.

Having a busy day-to-day life can be draining and sometimes means that we don’t really make time to take care of ourselves. a

It’s strange how big a difference cleaning your room or de-cluttering your inbox can make on a person. But believe me it does.

Especially now that we’re in the harsh winter months, with summer long gone I think it’s more important than ever to have fun and relax.

So here’s a list of Ten Things You Can Do To Get Rid of the Winter Blues!

  1. De-Cluttering

Haven’t worn it in a year? Get rid. Out of date makeup that you never use? Don’t start now, for the sake of your skin! All those emails that have been piling up in your inbox- say au revoir!

De-cluttering is one of the single most calming things in the world. Letting go of all the little things that build up and contribute to your daily stresses feels great when it’s done.

My desk is what I like to consider my holy space. It’s where I do all my creative writing, blog posts and articles- not to mention my university work. However, like any other student – it can get messy. Dinner plates, unopened letters, mugs galore and piles and piles of notebooks and pens. Every perfectionists worst nightmare.

It might take a while, but believe me if you surround yourself with nice, tidy spaces- your mind will be full of positive vibes.

2. Have a Spa Day

Nope, this doesn’t need to be heinously expensive. I can assure you, you don’t need to travel to the Dead Sea to obtain glorious skin.

Rather, pop into your local Superdrug or Boots and pick up a couple of the products on display there. Not sure what you want? Ask one of the assistants on the beauty counter for some help. They’ll be sure to give you advice on what’s best for your personal skin type and needs.

Some of my favourite products include;

The best thing about these products is that they don’t break the bank!

3. Read a Book

Aaaah yes, I know what you’re thinking, “Of course she’d say that she’s a blooming English student!” But believe me, there’s a difference between reading something because you have to and reading it because you want to.

I was in a reading slump for the longest time until I discovered Margaret Atwood and now can’t stop reading!

There’s also a nice solitude in reading that you don’t always get if you’re watching a movie or YouTube video. It’s a very personal experience and a good way to block out the rest of the world- even if just until Bakeoff comes on later on in the evening.

4. Go to the Cinema… Alone.

Ooh daunting isn’t it? But why should it be? Seriously, there’s something daring and independent about knowing that you’re going to the cinema on your own. It sounds silly but there are multiple movies I’ve been too where I’ve felt so at ease just being alone and taking it in.

So, find a local movie theatre (our ones The Savoy) and go see the re-launch of your favourite old Indie movie that they’re playing.

Pop on your cosiest jumper, grab the popcorn and head to the back to watch.

5. Rediscover a Forgotten Interest or Hobby

Mine’s writing short stories and poetry personally. However, yours can be anything from learning to play the harmonica (*coughs* me again) to developing a love for everything Tim Burton. Who knows? Who cares? Whose judging? Nobody.

Having a hobby can kind of be like having a super power. It’s something that sets you apart from the masses.

Conclusion

I hope you enjoyed that little piece by me, so now I shall say adieu.

See you in the next post,

E x

 

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Confidence: An Open Letter to my Sixteen-Year-Old Self

We’ve all dealt with the crippling effects of low self-esteem in life at some point. It’s a given when you’re growing up – what with all the hormones and anxieties flying about.

For someone whose dealt with panic attacks and self-image problems in the past, I think for me confidence was something I really needed in order to survive my adolescent years. Which is why I’m writing this open letter to my younger self, to assure her that yes, life is difficult but loving yourself isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

So, what does the word mean to me?

My own personal definition of the word is very simple: feeling comfortable in your own skin. Such a simple concept in theory but in reality, it’s one of the most difficult things to put into practice.

When I was sixteen, I was a mess. Literally. I couldn’t speak to boys, I felt undervalued and like a waste of space in my friendship groups and seriously couldn’t understand why anyone else would want to socialise with me.

I would look around and see all these other people with their heads held high, being themselves and be in awe of them. How did they do it? Weren’t they terrified that what made them who they were wasn’t good enough?

My anxiety got so bad that I remember walking down the road, unable to raise my head and my breathing becoming more and more erratic.

Once, I was catcalled from a car by a group of twenty something boys. It was summertime and I was wearing a skater skirt and thin tights. I was completely fine in what I was wearing, looking back on it. However, at the time I was so embarrassed that I remember running home and changing.

And all because I didn’t have an ounce of self-confidence.

I now look back on my younger self and wish I could go back and shake her by the shoulders. Sixteen-year-old me wasn’t anywhere near all the things she thought she was and could have done so much more with her time and avoided so many problems had she simply grounded herself and said, “I have so much going for myself and so much to come.”

I also wish she’d have treated herself to a bubble bath every once in a while. Because honestly, feeling good is about loving all of you- the inside and the out.

Another thing I would have done would have been to introduce her to one of my favourite quotes a lot earlier on. I can’t quite remember where I first saw it. Had it been on a class wall as a poster? Or maybe I read it in a book? Wherever it was, it helps me to face up to my problems in time of need.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Eleanor Roosevelt is the author of that saying, and rightly so. People can only make you feel low about yourself if you let them. Remember Mini-Me that the persona you put out in the world is the one that’s going to be received.

If you come across as submissive and full of self-loathing then sooner or later someone’s going to take advantage of that and walk all over you.

But- if you stand up tall, slick on some red lipstick and walk with an air of confidence. Well, then the whole worlds your oyster. I mean look at how far we’ve come in those four years!

So, chin up- it only goes up from here.

Speak soon,

E x

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Feel Good Everyday: Dead Sea by the Lumineers

Okay so my first pick of the day would be the song Dead Sea by the Lumineers. I know just from the title you might not understand why this song speaks to me as much as it does but hang on in there and let me explain.

The message to me would be that the dead sea is full of salt, so the reason he see’s the name as a compliment and not an insult would be the fact that people float in the dead sea. Kind of like he’s her life support, the only thing keeping her above water.

And I love that simple message.

Like the Dead Sea
You told me I was like the Dead Sea
You’ll never sink when you are with me
Oh Lord, like the Dead Sea
Whoa, I’m like the Dead Sea
The finest words you ever said to me
Honey can’t you see,
I was born to be, be your Dead Sea

Another reason I love this song would be the fact that it feels as though the singer is basically telling you that it’s okay to run away and do whatever you want. The rhythm of the song is slow and soothing and one that often accompanies me on long walks on my own. It reminds me of summer time and also that despite all the stuff that I might be going for it reminds me of the important people that I have in my life.

You told me you were good at running away
Domestic life, it never suited you like a suitcase
You left with just the clothes on your back
You took the rest when you took the map

Again, I find the idea of running away exhilarating, having the courage to up sticks and leave has always appealed to me and in times when I have felt my very lowest reminded me that hey if things don’t work out I can always jump on a plane and go somewhere where they will. The future is a constant motivator.

Yes, there are times we live for somebody else
Your father died and you decided to live

This line is melancholy but also true, sometimes we stick around at the expense of others and I’m not saying that’s wrong just that sometimes we get so used to other peoples needs and aspirations that we forget about our own. I really aspire to go travel the world a year or two after I finish university and the idea of getting tied down by jobs and logistics terrifies me or what if my partner decides they don’t want to join me?

But the line “decided to live” reminds me that experiences are better than regrets.

Okay and this last quote is what I will leave you with;

I’ve been down, I’ve been defeated
You’re the message I was heeding
Would you stay,
Would you stay the night?

The idea of having that one other person in the world that needs you just as much as you need them hits scarily close to home in my case. So often I have felt the lowest of lows and all I have to do is either talk it out with Alex, Kathryn or Beth and I feel so much better. Laughs and giggles are what life lacks sometimes and appreciating and giving credit where credit is due is always good.

But to be more precise my friend Ciara is probably the biggest reason this last verse speaks to me. She came and picked me up off the kitchen floor and got me back to being myself.

Anyway here’s the video so you can have a listen for yourself and please let me know what you think of this new segment. I find that songs remind us of memories, ones that often get overcast with negative events and things.

Comment your suggested songs or even do something similar on your own blog!

-E

 

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Feel Good Everyday Movement

Okay so this is quite an important post to me so please please please take the time to read this.

Like I said in my previous post life has been treating me kinda crappy and I have had enough of it!

Depression is not a fun thing to slip into and it feels like there are a hundred and one things to worry, be sad, get traumatised and mull over.happy

And I ask this, why must we only focus on the core bad things that happen in our lives?! Why do we have to be upset, why is appearing perfect online with a removed persona seen as cool or impressive?

So I want to start a new movement here on my blog- others can join in if you want but I propose that everyday you try to look for something that makes you smile and keep a tally. I also want to strive to put together a collection of posts following this one to show exactly what makes me happy!

I got this idea from a friend of mine called Kerry. She has a facebook page (which I shall link in a mo) which is all about loving yourself and being well.

She actually caught me on a bad day and I told her all the mumbo jumble that had been going on and she actually really helped me by sending me links to things and giving me the tip to keep a journal for when I really want to rant and doing a three step process to get things out, reflect and focus on the positives.

I originally thought that this blog would be my outlet but even I am not completely comfortable with telling the internet my entire story hehe. But yes, she listened, talked things through with me and instead of walking away feeling guilty for putting the burden of my problems on someone else/ the fear that it would somehow get back to someone I knew – instead I felt motivated to what she told me to do.

Okay here is the link:

https://www.facebook.com/kduffyarbonne/?fref=ts

Please, please take the time to watch her videos and listen to her message. Also, she really wants to hit 300 likes on her page before she reaches her 30th birthday and although she doesn’t know I’m doing this I would really love to surprise her!

yayAnyway, this was just the introduction to my new segment here on my blog inspired by Kerry and her brilliant message. I’m going to start every post for Feel Good Everyday with a song lyric that I’m currently loving and which has a positive message.

Comment below if you want to turn this into a tag and have a go too or even if you wish to suggest a song!

Sorry that this was long hehe 😀

-E

 

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Difficult People Doing Difficult Things

Difficult people doing difficult things

Requires awkward manoeuvres

Because they think themselves Kings.

I’m not a difficult women

So I can’t play their games

I was raised by my mother

Not by snakes on a plane.

Mean spirited people have a chip on their shoulder

Or rather a huge weight of nastiness

That they try to smother you under.

All of this said we need to put them in place

By thwarting their negativity

With smiles and joy

So we can try and erase.

-E.K.

 

Needless to say I’ve been dealing with difficult people all my life, sometimes the only way to beat them is to carry on enjoying life and not showing them that they’ve won. I had a bad day today – like REALLY bad – I wish I could go into more detail. In which around every corner seemed to be someone trying to drag me down when I was trying to have a positive attitude. I let it out, cried a bit on the phone with my friend whom was having similar woes and then we chuckled all night long.